MALE SEXUALITY

 One of the biggest lacks of education today is the lack of sexual education. Both men and women suffer from a lack of education about healthy and fulfilling sexuality.

For boys, sex education starts with the first porn movies. Pornography is the only accessible way for teenagers to learn about sexuality. There are also some who have brothers, cousins or older friends who might teach them some things. But normally, we don’t have any external education. We teach ourselves, inspired by what we see in porn.

In every boy’s life, there is the monumental moment when he sees for the first time a penis being inserted into a vagina. Then he realises what is the first goal of his life. Sex and reproduction are integral parts of our biology. We have the desire and the need to experience sexuality. Since then, we become impatient to have our share of sexuality. We dream of the day when we too can feel what it’s like to be inside a girl. Also, we want to do it as well as possible and that’s why we watch a lot of porn movies to see how it’s done. Porn movies awaken our sexual energy and that’s how we start to enjoy the pleasant sexual sensations.

We start to become very friendly with the hand, or with our hands, so we can also have some sexual pleasure. We want a girl to give us pleasure, but until we find one, we are satisfied with the pleasure given by ourselves.

With our hand ready for action, we look at what was happening in the porn movies. We pay attention to everything we see and believe that the same will happen in our future.

We look and see some very beautiful girls who are very eager for sex. We see how girls go after guys or give up very easily to have sex. We see how they can’t wait to jump into action. We see some buff guys taking the toy out of their pants. We see how the girl immediately sucks it with great pleasure and then inserts it into her vagina.

We watch the penetration and see a fast pace with deep penetration. Likewise, we notice how the girls feel better and better as the rate of penetration increases. We see how the sexual act ends with orgasm and ejaculation. We see how ejaculation is very pleasant for the man and thus we learn that orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing. In this way, we are learning that ejaculation is the wow part of male sexuality. This is how we program ourselves and we always have ejaculation as our goal.

The fast pace of penetration in porn teaches us to have a fast pace of self-stimulation too. A fast rhythm of self-stimulation leads us to a quick arousal and then to a quick ejaculation. It doesn’t take long to reach ejaculation; it can take a few minutes or a few tens of seconds. In this way, we create a habit of ejaculating quickly. We will grow bigger and bigger, but we will still have this habit where there is rapid stimulation and rapid ejaculation.

We will notice, as we grow, that the penis does not grow so much that it is the same as seen in porn movies. We ask ourselves: “What is happening? Why mine is it not as big as it is in porn movies or why do others have it so big?”. We don’t realize and no one tells us that most of us have average size penises and for porn movies they choose those with big ones. Because we have the impression that we have a little one, we develop a sexual devaluation. We think that we are not able to satisfy women with a small penis. We don’t realize that we have the normal penis and it’s all we need to satisfy any woman, as long as we know how to use it. Although a larger penis may have an advantage, it is not a significant one. The big advantage is knowing how to use your penis and how to manage your sexual energy.

At some point comes the historic day when we will have our first sexual experience. Very happy and very excited we insert the penis into the vagina for the first time. Because we are programmed by the porn movies, we will have, like in masturbation, a quick penetration. A quick penetration will lead to a quick arousal and a quick ejaculation. Also, the warm and wet vagina will make the arousal even greater and lead to an even faster ejaculation. We don’t even realize when it happens. We wake up having a little orgasm and some sperm ejaculating contractions and that’s it, all the fun is over.

We don’t know what to do to be able to hold out longer. The habit of fast masturbation leads us to fast penetration and fast ejaculation. This habit of ejaculating quickly with a girl or woman is called premature ejaculation. Which is a big problem in our society. Most sexual interactions suffer from this problem. Both the man and the woman, but especially the woman, suffer from a sexual unfulfillment and enjoys very little her sexual and orgasmic energy.

Many of us continue to have brief sexual experiences, where the man enjoys a small orgasm, and the woman enjoys little or no sexual energy. This habit will create a sexual performance anxiety in the man. He will develop a fear of having sex because he knows he won’t get it right. Many men suffer from this fear, especially if they meet a sexy and sensual partner. This fear creates a condition called erectile dysfunction. This is when the man cannot get an erection or cannot hold an erection for a long time. The fear of sexual performance causes his body to shut down and refuse penetration. Even if he consciously wants penetration, his penis has other ideas. It all comes from the subconscious, which is trying to protect the man from another sexual failure. The subconscious tries to protect him from premature ejaculation, but the inability to get and hold an erection causes another sexual devaluation. This reinforces the feeling of sexual devaluation, which becomes stronger and stronger. Self-esteem is affected and there will always be the fear of sexual failure.

Also, a toxic diet, a lot of stress, lack of healthy exercise and a lot of work can decrease a man’s sexual power.

Few men enjoy high sexual power and are confident that they can satisfy any woman. In general, most men suffer sexually. The primary cause is a lack of solid education about healthy sexuality. With this education we will know how to use all our sexual potential.

Taoist and Tantric sexuality give us all the information we need to have a healthy and fulfilling sexuality. That’s how we can satisfy any woman.